I am very aware of how to create moderators. Sadly, I have yet to find a moderated forum that does not take on the personalities of the moderators. What content is allowed? What content is not allowed? I will edit out truly offensive content, and ban people when necessary, but I hesitate when people are venting or arguing because I am tired of the constant 'political correctness' that is overwhelming communication. My limits are pretty broad... while at the same time giving people the power to self-moderate via an easy ignore feature. I am fascinating by people who say they are offended by someone's content... and then continue to seek it out and read it... but want ME to do something about it. So I prioritize:
(1) Spam. If you are a spammer assume instaban.
(2) Porn. Likewise.
(3) Personal attacks. Depends on the content and extent. If people are just arguing and calling each other idiots, I usually let it go because BOTH PARTIES are engaging and BOTH PARTIES have the power to end it at any time via ignore. I draw the line at threats, or over-the-top character assassination like degrading images.
(4) Questionable Content. I finally had to remove the religion/politics/anything goes forum because it was generating too much ill will. The off-topic forum I lightly moderate to keep the tone more or less positive.
Note - I have plenty of tools to deal with trouble-makers if necessary. I just don't like to use them. I come from a big family. We will often argue. But we love each other and within 15 minutes will be laughing together again. I hope to create a similar environment here. When people get moderated every time they raise a controversial opinion, or disagree with a position, I find it tends to squash discussion and you end up with a forum of drones where everyone agrees with each other. If you want to post about a subject and want to control the discussion around it, create an article - and you can moderate what people say about it - or whether you want any conversation about it AT ALL.