Miss
@BonsaiLaine , sentimental times call for sentimental measures!
I don't want to consider this tree done. It's not outside of possibility that a tree like this springs forth again. However, it is not very probable. That said, before the semi inevitable happens, and you might decide to never visit us again, I'd like to propose these thoughts.
First, what this tree did as a tree was pretty sneaky, right rascally if you will! I have a theory where a tree will basically live on what roots it can regrow from that mushyness. The same amount of roots regrowing and dying, regrowing and dying, which is able to barely keep a tree alive with a little bit of foliage, like yours seems to have been.
That's a scale easily tipped. By no fault of your own either.
It was tipped by that long basal shoot from the rootstock. That branch is what changed the regular "schedule". They graft this smaller waxier foliage on for a reason, it withstands indoors. Not only did you end up with a shoot with 200% more leaves than your tree ever had, but those leaves were very different, much more thirsty and capable of transpiration. It just couldn't keep up.
But look what I see...............
this isn't about a tree .....
You also grew from rootstock, your Father.
I think this entire thing is merely a sign that you are WHOLE enough to move forward.
You've grown from your rootstock. Your rootstock is aware, proud, and able to move on, as it were. You no longer need the "tree".
I think you should feel blessed.
(Shedding a tear for your losses. And for your gains.)
May I ask you a question?
Was your Father more into plants, or loving you?
Forgive me if I'm wrong but I reckon he was more about loving you, than plants.
Which leads me to believe that you are here, more for the reasons of love, family, and people, than plants.
So, should this thing perish, I'd like to invite you to stay with this family here. Maybe start a new tree, to symbolize a new path. Maybe share with your next of kin.
And with this joy of nature, always keep a reminder of your rootstock around!
We'll be here to help however we can!
Sorce