I don't think it is proven that nitrogen doesn't stimulate vegetative or elongated growth. Yes, the plant uses what it needs. But if there is no nitrogen, it can't take it and it will grow differently. If the soil doesn't contain any nitrogen, how does say a pine or maple grow 60cm new shoots in growing season? It can't.
As for not feeding nitrogen in autumn, when the plant isn't really elongating new growth anymore, why fertilize with high N? As for how much the NPK ratio can modulate growth patterns of a plant, not too sure. That may be a myth. Or may depend on the species.
A plant isn't going to 'take take take' all the nitrogen it can, until it hits a wall and there is nothing left and go from vigorous healthy growth to a nutrient deficiency.. It will modulate it's growth behaviour before it exhausts the soil.
A potted plant will grow completely different if A) it has no space for new roots & there's no N fertilizer compared to B) there is a ton of new space for new roots & there is plenty of nitrogen.
If there is a paper that 'debunks' this, I'd like to read it.
It would be cool if there is a paper somewhere that addresses harding off new growth & nitrogen in autumn & winter hardiness.
I feel that with azaleas I definitely see plants (not bonsai) that have grown strongly because of a repot, fertilizer, plenty of space for new roots, do not harden off their growth as quickly in autumn. And those water sprout shoots then get damaged by the freezing temperatures. While an azalea of the same or similar variety in a status quo pot will not have this issue at all.