All of this worries me.
If you had done real diligence you would have found that JM is NOT a great beginner bonsai tree. The only positive is the word Japanese in the name. JM are not as hardy as many species. They do not respond to pruning as well as many other species. They suffer more diseases than others. As a veteran bonsai grower I would always recommend trident maple to learn with then transfer the skills to JM later.
You think your tree resembles something like bonsai. What does bonsai look like? IMHO 'bonsai' should look like a real, natural tree. Preferably an older tree. Some of the key features we value in bonsai are Thick (old looking) trunk. Taper from base to apex (old looking). Nebari (Japanese term for surface roots that show age on deciduous trees)
If you are happy with a skinny trunk maple with a few branches above please choose to ignore the rest of this post. If you would like to develop real bonsai please tread on.
Starting with the trunk. Regular trimming removes leaves and that slows trunk growth. A regularly trimmed tree will take many years to thicken. The same tree allowed to grow free will thicken much faster.
Taper in the trunk is best achieved by pruning. Let the tree grow then chop back. Rise an repeat for a number of years to achieve both trunk thickness, taper and trunk bends. Fore even quicker trunk development we plant trees like this into the garden for a few years then chop back and develop bonsai from the thick stump.
Finally
I’m paranoid if try pruning it I might cut the wrong thing off
We all start here. The reality is pruning a tree is like a haircut. It all grows back really quick.
Being scared of pruning means your tree is not developing. Whatever chop you make is the correct one - something will still develop from it. A the minimum you can trim any branch back to 1 or 2 nodes. That will make those branches sprout more new shoots and increase branches. Trimming produces ramification (bushiness)
If you've manged to read this far I apologise for the negative vibe. Bonsai can be whatever you want it to be but I'd hope you can aspire to quality bonsai rather than sticks in pots.